But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to his brother, Raca, is answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone who says, “You fool!” will be in danger of the fire of hell. Christian counselors report the 50 percent of people who come in for counseling have problems dealing with anger. When anger is held at the center of a person’s life they can’t communicate, they can’t love: everything is centered on destruction rather than building: relationships, marriage and friendships. These individuals don’t take responsibility for their actions they make excuses. God’s Word contains principles regarding how to handle anger in a Godly manner, and how to overcome sinful anger.
Righteous indignation; God is angry (Psalm 7:11Mark 3:5) and believers are commanded to be angry (Ephesians 4:26). Two types of anger are: one that is passion energy, and the other being; agitated, boiling. There are many examples of agitated anger in the scripture; David’s being upset over hearing Nathan the prophet sharing an injustice (2 Samuel 12), and Jesus anger over how some of the Jews had defiled worship at God’s temple in Jerusalem (John 2:13-18). These examples of anger don’t involve self-defense, but defense from others.
Anger turns to sin when it’s selfishly motivated (James 1:20), when God’s goal is distorted (1 Corinthians 10:31), or when anger starts to consume one’s life. Christians should use their words to lift others up; not allowing their words to be destructive. When anger is held within, it may cause depression and irritability over little things, often over unrelated issues. God is sovereign and in complete control over every circumstance and person that enters our path. Nothing happens to us that He does not cause or allow. God is a good God (Psalm 145:8, 9, 17) who allows all things in our lives for our good and the good of others.
A true test of some Christian’s faith is to make room for God’s wrath. Especially, in cases of injustice; when “evil” men abuse “innocent” people. (Genesis 50:19 and Romans 12:19) both tell us to not play God. God is righteous and just, and we can trust Him who knows all and sees all to act justly (Genesis 18:25).
To try and solve anger issues it begins through communication. People can’t read your mind. Speak the truth, and allow others to know how they have made you feel. Don’t assume they understand your pain. Speak out immediately; don’t allow anger to build up until it erupts like a volcano. Attack the problem not the people, and don’t raise your voice in anger. Speak from the heart and trust that God is on our side. Act, but don’t react (Ephesians 41-32). If someone provokes you, and hurts you, count to 10; before you speak out in anger. Get your thoughts together and speak in a non confrontational voice, and express how you feel. No one can control how others act or respond, but you can turn over your anger to God. Overcoming a temper can only be accomplished through Prayer. You must rely upon God’s Holy Spirit.
Anger is part of life; everyone experiences it and how a person handles such anger determines their character. Jesus’ anger did not arise from petty arguments or personal slights against Him. There was no selfishness involved. Jesus was not angry at God; His anger was targeted towards sinful behavior and true injustice. (Mark 3:5), says His anger was attended by grief over the Pharisees’ lack of faith. Jesus’ anger stemmed from love for the Pharisees and concern for their spiritual condition. When we get angry, too often we have improper control or improper focus. “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires” (James 1:19-20).
Our understanding of the sovereignty of God in all circumstances must be accompanied by our understanding of His other attributes: love, mercy, kindness, goodness, righteousness, justice, and holiness. When we see our difficulties through the prism of God’s Word; says our loving and holy God works all things together for our good (Romans 8:28), His perfect plan and purpose for us can’t be thwarted (Isaiah 14:24, 46:9-10), we can begin to see our problems in a different light. Jesus said, “In this world you will have trouble” but that He has “overcome the world” (John 16:33), enabling us to have peace within, in spite of the storms that rage around us (John 14:27).